Fly on the E-Commerce Cyberwall

Are You Talking Yourself Out of Success?
You call an acquaintance on the phone.

A day, two days later, you still haven't gotten a response.

What happens?

With most people, we build a story in our heads to "explain" why that person never returned our call.

"He must not want to talk to me." "She's still mad because of what I did last week." "He's just stuck up. I didn't really want to talk to him anyway."

Notice what each of those stories do? They each slam the door on further interaction with that person. Some of them slam the door in the mistaken perception that there's something lacking in us that makes further communication impossible. The other assumes there's something wrong with the other person that makes them unworthy of our overture.

But both decisively slam the door and isolate you from someone you had wanted to interact with.

What does this have to do with your business?

It's simply this:

We have the same tendency to create inner stories to "explain" the things that don't go according to plan in our businesses as well.

Sometimes our inner stories pin the blame on ourselves: "I'm not good enough at this." "Maybe my plan isn't working. I'd better start from scratch on something totally different instead of pressing on according to my plan." And in this way we stop ourselves from achieving what we could have achieved with just a little more perseverance.

Sometimes our inner stories pin the blame on our customers: "Why aren't they buying? Are they stupid? Are they cheap?" And we dig in and cut ourselves off from actually finding out what they want.

Either way, we're talking ourselves out of success.

We need to get beyond taking refuge in our insecurities or our resentments. We need to stop those inner stories that "explain" what we see around us in terms of the thinking errors with which we define our lives.

How do we overcome these thinking errors?

First off, when you hear yourself jumping into a characteristic way of thinking, catch yourself. Try to look at the situation from the opposite point of view.

If you immediately think that you must have done something wrong, stop and look for what you did right in the situation. If you immediately turn to blame and resentment, stop and look for what your role in the problem is.

Many times, by looking at problems from the opposite perspective than you normally do, you can get fresh ideas that help you solve the problem instead of letting the problem stop you.

Changing your perspective can be the difference between a dead end and a new direction that leads to success.
Jeff


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